"I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line ‘I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’ And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not ...
"Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with."
Sex and the City star Cynthia Nixon.
Naturally, the Gay Press is dismissing these comments: "She's just bisexual and she just doesn't realize it."
Of course, the point is that eroticism is something you do, not something you are. First Cynthia Nixon was hetero-erotic, now she's homo-erotic, but at no time was she both. The fact that she can switch from one to the other means, not that she is bisexual, but rather that she is master of herself and able to make her own decisions about her life.
